So often we give ourselves credit for only those things that we’ve made happen intentionally... goals that we’ve reached and checked off of our To-Do list. When we look back over our lives, we might think the list is not quite long enough for us to feel a sense of success, worth or pride. What about all the events that we didn't allow to happen? Shouldn't they count toward our list of successes?
It’s important to count the times when life has thrown a problem or situation at us that could have turned out badly had we not ducked to avoid it. Maybe ducking and avoiding the issue wasn’t an option… maybe we had to find the strength, patience and resourcefulness to fix the problem that threatened our health and happiness, or that of our family.
We need to also give ourselves credit for the hundreds of potential problems that we’ve prevented by making the right choice, which may not have always been the easy choice. We should give ourselves credit for simply being brave, honest, responsible, and respectful! Life doesn’t stay on track by itself. It takes diligence, tenacity and attention to detail. These are daily successes that we should definitely recognize!
When you include all of those triumphs, it’s a much more accurate representation of your life and the effort it took to get you to this place in time!
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Saying a person with ADHD, depression, OCD, or anxiety (etc) is not performing to their real potential is like saying an athlete with an injury is not performing to their real potential.
There is a huge difference between potential and ability. An athlete with a torn muscle might have the potential to run down the field; he just doesn’t have the ability at the moment.
The person with hidden challenges may not be working up to their potential, but they are probably working very hard to perform to the best of their ability.
Have you ever tried to run with a torn muscle? There are some ‘injuries’ that are not easily seen. It’s important to never make light of somebody’s effort by insinuating that they’re not doing their very best.
Cindy Gagne Teixeira
Just like you, I wear many hats. I'm a mom, a teacher, a friend, a daughter, a sister, and a writer. I choose to laugh (and talk... and write) about my problems because crying takes too much time.